Sunday, June 20, 2010

Father's Day

More and more I realize how much shit men get on this day. There is nothing but shade being thrown left and right. The men who have failed at being a father seems to have overshadowed the men who are good fathers. It’s a shame really. If your father is non existent in your life keep if freaking moving! I come from a family of women. My aunts who did marry are divorced the only constant men in my life was my grandfather and my aunt’s husband Eugene. So I have reasons to be bitter if I wanted to, all I know are sorry ass men. I don’t speak to my father, I haven’t in many years. I don’t even know where he is. Am I angry towards him? No, what is the point. Whatever choices we both have made in regards to our relationship we need to be at peace with it. The phone works both ways, no need to be pissy because we both are stubborn and we both won’t budge. I can’t be angry with him without being angry at myself. Wasted energy honey.

I also don’t ascribe to the notion that my mother was also father. My mother is my MOTHER, women can’t be fathers. Sorry,if you are really honest about it, you know its true. Since so many men have not been the fathers they should be to their children, society has subscribed to the the idea, well my single parent is both then, which makes no sense to me. These men don’t want to do right so lets replace them. It isn’t working… I was raised by a WOMAN in every sense of the word. The strength she instilled in me is that from a woman who had to go at it alone, not a woman replacing or standing in for a man! Why put all that on her?? I know people say it out of respect for what their mother has done for them, I get that, but it just doesn’t compute for me. I am the product and reflection of both my parents even if one wasn’t as involved as the other. She did not replace or stand in for him, and he could never replace and stand in for her. So to all the people with good parents SPEAK UP don’t let the sorry ass parental units of others overshadow the love you have experienced in your life. Sharing your experiences might quell some of the bitterness that is going around and heal some hurt souls out there.

Get that big piece of chicken fathers, its your day!

1 comment:

  1. Amen sister! Yesterday on FB I saw nothing but negative status updates about fathers. I'm so sick of people posting their ISSUES on FB. Just salute the fathers who are doing their part and keep it moving.